Cheating is the most common problem in many romantic relationships. It breaks people apart.
Cheating has devastating consequences, either emotional or otherwise. It is a recipe for heartbreak, distrust, toxicity, and betrayal.
Though people cheat for many reasons in a relationship, it is a fact that cheaters can regret their actions in the long run.
Apart from breaking the trust of the person who loves them wholeheartedly, they may get disappointed in themselves after reality has drawn on them.
A single act of cheating can leave an indelible negative mark on one’s life.
When do cheaters realize they made a mistake?
The truth is the realization is not time-bound. It varies largely between individuals and surrounding circumstances.
It depends on the cheater’s reflection on their actions, empathy, and self-awareness. While some cheaters may realize their mistakes relatively soon, some might take longer. Others might not truly come to terms with it.
Cheating does have serious consequences, either in the long or short time. In the short term, cheaters will experience guilt or shame for their actions when being caught in the act.
They will feel regretful for the pain caused to their partner, especially when their partner threatens or breaks up with them.
But in the long term, cheating may have a social, professional, and emotional impact on cheaters.
They may get criticized by family and friends who may feel disappointed in them based on their cheating actions.
Their employer may have a doubtful mindset towards them if they have strong dismay for cheating, especially if they’ve been victims of cheaters in the past.
When cheaters realize their mistakes after getting dumped, they may emotionally disconnect themselves from romantic affairs.
They may find it difficult to trust their current partners based on their cheating nature to avoid being taken for a ride.
It is generally hard to discern when cheaters realize they have made a mistake. They may pretend to change and fake empathy just for you to allow them back in your life.
After a while, they may cheat again and again. However, there are some salient signs to know when a cheater genuinely realizes their mistake.
When cheaters realize they made a mistake
1. They express guilt for their actions
The first sign of remorse for a cheater is to accept their action. A cheater who realizes their mistakes will accept their wrong and blame no one for their action.
They will be fully responsible and table no excuse as the reason for cheating.
They express guilt and try to reconnect with their partner. They apologize repeatedly and offer to do anything to erase the bad impression they’ve caused.
A cheater will also regret hurting their partner and recognize the damage their action has caused to the relationship.
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2. Open for communication
They will naturally want to spend more time with their partner and be ready to discuss more personal issues.
Their communication pattern will completely change.
They will be willing to have honest and uncomfortable conversations about their actions and the hurt they’ve caused.
While communicating, they’ll be less defensive and show complete remorse.
They will accept full responsibility for their actions and avoid making excuses or blaming others for their behaviour.
3. Changes in behaviours
Cheaters that realize their mistake will have changes in patterns of behaviour, habits, or lifestyle that contributed to the cheating.
They make changes in their behaviour to prevent themselves from cheating again. They may start being more transparent about their whereabouts.
They will find it difficult to tell lies and are ready to take their time to explain any imminent misunderstanding.
They will start by addressing underlying issues that led to the betrayal and try their best to cut off communication with the person they cheated with.
A cheater might block their fellow culprit to make he/she focus on their relationship and put more effort into becoming caring and passionate about their partner.
This is because they’ve eliminated all the distractions that endanger their relationship.
4. They become more empathetic
Repentant cheaters usually understand the pain and betrayal they cause. As a result, they will show empathy towards their partner’s feelings.
Also, they realize their partner’s need for space to heal and tend to set boundaries while remaining committed to the process.
At this time, they will be more patient with their partner. The reason for the patience is because they know their partner has every right to be angry at them for the hurt they’ve caused.
5. You became their priority
A remorseful cheater will consciously prioritize the relationship and invest time and energy nurturing it.
They will talk about the future with you. They will feel at ease to discuss anything with their partner, like their goal and thoughts about marriage.
They will pay close attention to their partner and keep every discussion detail in mind.
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6. They dwell more on personal growth
Apart from them taking the relationship seriously, they tend to get better in their personal life. Cheating can be a distraction and a waste of time.
They will have enough time to work on their personal growth and self-improvement actively.
They may delve into new hobbies or be more serious with their job. Also, they prioritize their health by constantly working out and managing their food intake.
Their lifestyle will change completely. Their priority will change from chasing multiple women to living healthy lives, making more money and gaining knowledge.
7. More transparent in their activities
They will be more open and transparent about their activities and whereabouts by willingly providing reassurance that they are committed to rebuilding trust by avoiding the shady lifestyle they have been known for.
Also, their words and actions will align consistently over time. This is an indication that they are genuinely committed to rebuilding the relationship.
8. They condemn cheating openly
Someone who realizes their mistake won’t allow others to fall into it. It’s a good sign they’ve learned their error if they openly speak against cheating.
They know that cheating can jeopardise one’s happiness which can have a long-lasting effect on someone’s life it they have a good relationship going on for them.
They won’t be afraid to recount their experience. They can even voice their opinions on social media platforms like Facebook or Instagram.
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9. They’re open to professional help
Suppose they have been unable to control their cheating escapades but are willing to change; if you suggest a therapy session, they won’t hesitate to go for it.
If they have yet to realise their mistake, they won’t find the need to consult a therapist. This shows the willingness to address the triggers of their cheating nature.
A therapy session can provide a safe space for cheaters to explore their actions, motivations, and the consequences of their behaviour, potentially leading to realization and growth.
A visit to a therapist may allow a cheater to recognize that there are some personal issues that they need to work on, and they are willing to seek expert guidance.
10. Negative impact on the relationship
Some cheaters hold their relationships in high esteem, despite cheating with others; they may initially think that cheating is a norm that has been widely accepted in society until it negatively affects the relationship they admire.
At this time, they realize they are losing themselves, and their partner is becoming sensitive to their every move.
11. The fear of being caught
Cheaters are always defensive. They use multiple lies to cover their cheating nature. This is because they understand that being caught can have regrettable consequences.
They might feel extremely embarrassed when caught, which can make them realize how hurtful their behaviour is to their partner.
They tend to realize their mistake early to avoid being labeled a cheat.
12. After a breakup with their partner
Some cheaters feel the consequences of their actions after their partner gets tired of their cheating nature and dumps them.
They may come to realise the fact that those they cheat with doesn’t worth the trouble.
Their sober reflection comes from a place of regret for their actions. After a passage of time and emotional settlement, they might come to understand the gravity of their actions.
Also, when they experience feelings of loss and isolation, they might start to recognize their mistake.
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13. When they enter into a new relationship
Venturing into another relationship could make cheaters reflect on past mistakes and the impact of their actions on their previous partner.
The guilty conscience follows them all around.
When their new relationship gets bad, they realize they’ve lost gold while chasing after stones.
At this time, they may recognise their new partner isn’t as understanding, forgiving, caring and committed as their ex, who they lost due to cheating.
Final Thought
It is important to note that some cheaters may never realize the pain and betrayal they have caused their partners and may be unwilling to change their behaviour.
If you are in a relationship with someone who has cheated on you, it is important to talk to them about your feelings and set boundaries for the relationship’s future if you still want to salvage what’s left.
The relationship can be restored if the cheater is truly remorseful and willing to make changes.
However, breaking apart is best if you can’t handle the betrayal or the cheater refuses to realise their mistake and cannot change.